To quote Monty Python, “And now, for something completely different.” Instead of posing a thought, I’d like to describe a situation and get some direction.
The Be Extraordinary team met recently to review the program’s first year and plan for its second. As we looked back, what we found surprised us. It was no surprise that we worked with more clients than we had planned, nor that dozens of people encouraged us through donations and other types of support. What surprised us is how we got there.
Remember the popular parlor game back in the ‘90’s, Six Degrees of Kevin Bacon? The premise was any actor can be linked through his or her films to the actor Kevin Bacon within six steps. The game is founded on the “six degrees of separation” concept by Hungarian writer Frigyes Karinthy. As a side note, Kevin Bacon created a non-profit organization www.sixdegrees.org to encourage charitable giving.
What makes us give our time, money, or goods to a particular charity? Is it a sense of gratitude? Obligation? Expectation of something in return? Guilt? I once made a pledge to an organization just to get the pushy solicitor off the phone. Needless to say, that was a one-time contribution.
A couple of weeks ago my wife was driving to Florida to meet her aunt. About 8:00 that night, somewhere around Yazoo City, Mississippi, she decided to call some friends in Jackson and ask if she could spend the night. Keep in mind she was 45 minutes away, late at night, and was arriving practically unannounced. Our friends said, “Of course! Just ignore the absolute mess the house is in.” That’s what real friends do. They open up their homes (and lives) just as they are, no pretense, no whitewashing the ugly spots, no pushing the dirty clothes under the couch.